As CJ and I try to prepare ourselves to be a parent to 4 kids, we have to remember to try and prepare our children as well. We are not kidding ourselves into thinking this is going to be an easy addition for our kids-especially for Shelby. Here is a quote from a book I am reading called Siblings Without Rivalry. Just imagine...
Imagine that your spouse puts an arm around you and says, “Honey, I love you so much, and you’re so wonderful that I’ve decided to have another wife just like you.”
When the new wife finally arrives, you see that she’s very young and kind of cute. When the three of you are out together, people say hello to you politely, but exclaim ecstatically over the newcomer. “Isn’t she adorable! Hello sweetheart…You are precious!” Then they turn to you and ask, “How do you like the new wife?”
The new wife needs clothing. Your husband goes into your closet, takes some of your sweaters and pants and gives them to her. When you protest, he points out that since you’ve put on a little weight, your clothes are too tight on you and they’ll fit her perfectly.
The new wife is maturing rapidly. Every day she seems smarter and more competent. One afternoon as you’re struggling to figure out the directions on the new computer your husband bought you, she bursts into the room and says, “Oooh, can I use it? I know how.”
When you tell her she can’t use it, she runs crying to your husband. Moments later she returns with him. Her face is tear-stained and he has his arm around her. He says to you, “What would be the harm in letting her have a turn? Why can’t you share?”
So how do you think you would feel about the "new addition!?" Any tips on easing the transition would be greatly appreciated :)
Gaining Clarity
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I have calmed down since last week, but I still feel very betrayed. It will
take a very, very long time for me to get past this - if I ever do.
Honestly,...
1 comment:
Yikes!! I've never thought about it that way......I'll be praying for you.....I have no clue how to make that easier. Caleb and Lily are 18 months apart....so we never really delt with that. :)
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